Thursday, December 31, 2009

Happy New Year 2010!

It's that time of year again. The last day of the year and the welcoming of a new year to arrive in just a few hours. The day we all make resolutions and then stick to them for a couple weeks and then forget what our resolutions were. I don't really make resolutions, but I set small goals for myself that I would like to accomplish each year. 2009 has been a great year for me and my girls. I started out 2009 with no clue what would happen during the year. I am happy to say it's turned out to be a pretty good year. There were hills and valleys like there are in everyday life, but the good news is that it was more on flat ground this year!

Last year was my big year of change in 2008. I learned so much about myself in that year. I have still learned alot about myself in 2009 but in different ways. We all have things we need to experience so that we can learn lessons in life. That goes both ways for good lessons and hard lessons. . I have met some wonderful people this year that have touched my life in so many ways. It can even start as early as January 1 of the new year. And it did. January 1 was a new year, a new beginning for me to experience 365 days of excitement, craziness, good times, sad times, and to learn even more about what direction God wants me to go. Looking back, this year was more leveled out than some others years I've had in life. I'm starting and ending the year the same person I was on December 31, 2008. I have changed a little but not near as much as last year.

Did I mention that time took away the 2 and left me with a 3 for another decade. I can't exactly say the word "thirty" yet. But I'm working on it. Really, I am. But let's not talk about age right now...

This has been a year of fun with the best things that have ever happened to me ~ my girls. They are both growing up so fast. My little one took a mature turn when she started preschool and is much more pleasant to be around most of the time =). Lately she will look at me and say "Mommy, I love you so much" and it almost brings tears to my eyes every time! That brightens my world when I hear that from my baby and makes me forget about everything else at the time. My oldest is also becoming more grown up in her own way too. She is no longer the "little girl" even though she is still my little girl. I do believe the pre-teen thing has hit our house this year and some days I like it, other days I can't stand it. Regardless, she has become a little adult in her own little way and it's nice. I can actually talk to her more than I ever could and she understands more. She is still the same sweet daughter she has always been; that is something she will never loose. She is quite mature for her age and it's nice to be able to sit down and snuggle with my baby who will hit double digits next year.

Reflecting back, it's been a good year. I would like to thank each person who changed my life this year. I am grateful for each and everything that happened to me this year because it made me into a better person and molded me into who I am TODAY. I have been wonderfully blessed in my job, in my family, with my friends, in my life. I cannot thank God enough for all He has done in my life, and my daughters lives. So here is a big welcome to 2010! Thank you 2009 for such a great year, but it's time to move on and allow the next year and the surprises it holds to arrive. I want to wish each and every one a Happy New Year! Be safe, live happy, laugh often, love much, and don't regret anything you ever did because at one point it was exactly what you wanted. Toodles until next year and may you have a blessed new year in 2010!

Monday, December 28, 2009

Merry Late Christmas to You!

Life is busy. It sometimes never seems to slow down. There is always something going on, somewhere to go, something to do, someone that needs something. The bottom line is life is a constant merry go round of excitement, happiness, sadness, and craziness with its ups and downs. But it is also what we make of it too.

There will always be wonderful, good and great times in this world. Cherish those times because they don't come around as often as they should. Or is it that we don't make the time for good times like we should? There are times when we need to take a step back and force ourselves to slow down. Yes, literally force ourselves to take a little break or lift our foot from the accelerator pedal just a bit.

As I always say, along with those good times come the not so good times. Cherish those times as well because those are the times that teach us about life, and we can really learn alot in our down times. Those down times allow us to appreciate the good times we are given. We also need to make time for the not so good times because sometimes we are given those terrible times to make us learn a lesson, or to take a different direction that God wants us to take. Just remember, we must take the good with the bad in all aspects in life.

This time of year is a time for families and friends to gather. A time to appreciate our loved ones and those close friendships we have. Christmas time always brings out the good in people, but it can also bring up sad memories as well. People tend to be a little bit nicer and jollier than they normally would any other time of the year. It's sad that Christmas is only one day out of 365 because if you do the math, that means people are less friendly more days of the year than not. Not everyone falls into this category, but many do. I try to be happy and nice 365 days a year but even I have my moments. Speaking of sad memories around Christmas, sometimes the holidays are something we want to skip because of the loss of a loved one, or because something bad has happened to us that year. I always say to cherish every moment because we never know what will happen from day to day. I found myself looking at the picture of the daughter I lost 6 1/2 years ago for a moment on Christmas Day. Even though we have been 7 Christmases without Mindy Grace, she is always remembered on Christmas. But rather than tear up and be sad, I simply remember she is an angel in Heaven and is no longer in pain.

The holidays have came and will soon be gone but please remember to try to keep the Christmas spirit from this day forward. It's easier said than done and many of us will go back to our normal daily busy lives and fall into our routine once January is here. It's just a simple thought, but a good one at that. Take it for what it's worth, but wouldn't it be nice for people to be happy more often then they are sad? Just remember to pray each day, live life to the fullest, and be the best person you can be for yourself, your family, your friends, and for God. He wants nothing but the best for us, but we have to choose to take the happy path and live it the best way we can. Since I did not get to post before Christmas, Merry Christmas to all, even if it a couple days late! =-)

Monday, December 21, 2009

To Realize the Value...

Maybe you have seen these words before in an email or somewhere else, but they are very true. Too often, we take life for granted. We take the little things we are accustomed to for granted. We take our family and friends for granted because we think they will always be there. Life is too short not to live happy and healthy. We all should take a little time out of each day to thank God for our blessings and hug our loved ones a little tighter. We should speak what is on our mind and let people know we care. So I will start with saying enjoy the words below, and do something different day, something you don't normally do. Call up that friend you haven't talked to in awhile, spend a few minutes with your child or children just talking to them, pay it forward and do something nice for a total stranger. Hope you enjoy these statements and realize the value of how precious life and all that it contains is. Have a wonderful day!

To realize the value of a sister or brother, ask someone who doesn't have one.

To realize the value of ten years, ask a newly divorced couple.

To realize the value of four years, ask a graduate.

To realize the value of one year, ask a student who has failed a final exam.

To realize the value of nine months, ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize the value of one month, ask a mother who has given birth to a premature baby.

To realize the value of one week, ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of one minute, ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize the value of one second, ask a person who has survived an accident.

To realize the value of a friend or family member, lose one.

Time waits for no one. Treasure every moment you have.

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Life is Short

Life is short. We never know what will happen from one day to the next, sometimes even one minute to the next. I always preach to live life to the fullest and grab every opportunity that comes your way. Do you wish you had a crystal ball that could tell you your future? Tell you exactly what was going to happen, when it was going to happen, how it was going to happen? Many in this world would answer Yes to this question. I probably would have wanted to know my future a few years ago, but my answer would be No at this point in my life. Life is full of surprises and we never know what is coming our way, and that's half the fun of life. We all have good times and wonderful moments in life. But we must take the good with the bad and have those moments that aren't so great in our life as well.

I wrote about a lady who inspired me about a year ago. I met this lady a little over a year ago, she has done business in my office a few times. She was diagnosed with cancer but she wasn't going to let it get her down and she was fighting that battle tooth and nail with everything she had. Her husband has been in the office a few times since and I always ask about her because she truly had an impact on me. I came back from lunch today and was informed he had been in while I was gone and heard the tragic news that she has been given two weeks to live. My heart is breaking and I barely know this woman. Her personality reminded me so much of mine and maybe that is why I am so sad over this. This is heartbreaking, but I know from talking to this lady, she has a spot at Heaven's gates waiting for her. She has so much faith in God and has grown with Him since she was diagnosed with cancer. Even though you do not know this woman, I am asking you to please pray for her and her family. She is such a sweetheart and I can almost bet she will be in good positive spirits these last few days the Lord gives her on this earth. But please pray for this family, they are going to need extra comfort especially around the holidays.

We always question why things happen. But there are no answers to those questions. The only answer is to keep moving forward and ask God what the next chapter is in our life. I have always said life is like a book and there are many chapters in the storybook of life. I want to know that I did things to the best of my ability, that I was the best person I could be, and that I lived a full life with no regrets when my time comes one fine day. I wish everyone could have that same attitude, but that can't and will never happen. If I can influence one person to become a better person, or become right with God, or to do more good in their life, then that is worth it all. I want to be a positive rode model for all those that know me, and those that have never even met me. I will never shake my positive attitude about life and everything that happens. I will always be an optimistic person because I choose to be.

I will say it again - life is too short. Do you know how many times I hear that on a weekly basis? You have probably even said it yourself a time or two. This time of year people tend to be a little jollier, a little more upbeat, a little nicer, a little sweeter than the rest of the year. My question is why can't people be like that all year long? People tend to show their nice and giving side this time of year. But if you think about it, if people could be nice and more giving all year long, life would be alot better and easier than it is. Do you agree? There wouldn't be as many fights or as much negativity floating around as there is today. I know I am speaking in a wishful tone, but it is the truth. We just never know what life will throw at us from day to day, so remember to make the most of it and never let an opportunity pass you by. Grab on it and hang on because life has ups and downs everyday. It's the surprise and mystery of life that makes it worth living.

Thursday, December 3, 2009

A Story of Two Wolves


One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, "My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all. "

One is Evil - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather:

"Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."

Random Things In Our Head

I read the following in an e-mail and found myself laughing at several of these. Most of them are true if we think about it! I know I found myself nodding in agreement to some. Enjoy!


- More often than not, when someone is telling me a story all I can think about is that I can't wait for them to finish so that I can tell my own story that's not only better, but also more directly involves me. (Depends on who is talking!)

- Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong. (OOPS! I will say to my blog readers that I will admit when I'm wrong no matter how difficult it is. That is something most people cannot or will not do.)

- Have you ever been walking down the street and realized that you're going in the complete opposite direction of where you are supposed to be going? But instead of just turning a 180 and walking back in the direction from which you came, you have to first do something like check your watch or phone or make a grand arm gesture and mutter to yourself to ensure that no one in the surrounding area thinks you're crazy by randomly switching directions on the sidewalk. (This one applies to me walking around the Wal-Mart parking lot looking for my beloved car. And on average, it happens about once a week month. That's why I am nicknamed Blondie!)

- I totally take back all those times I didn't want to nap when I was younger. (Oh Lord yes! I would give my left arm somedays to be allowed to take a nap...)

- Is it just me, or are 80% of the people in the "people you may know" feature on Facebook people that I do know, but I deliberately choose not to be friends with? (Amen to this one)

- Do you remember when you were a kid, playing Nintendo and it wouldn't work? You take the cartridge out, blow in it and that would magically fix the problem. Every kid did that, but how did we all know how to fix the problem? There was no internet or message boards or FAQ's. We just figured it out. Today's kids are soft. (Today's society is totally different. I miss those old Nintendo games =(. I had alot of late nights with that system. Why do we have to grow up?!?!)

- There is a great need for sarcasm font. (Uh, YA!!!)

- Sometimes, I'll watch a movie that I watched when I was younger and suddenly realize I had no idea what the heck was going on when I first saw it. (Um hmmmm....)

- I think everyone has a movie that they love so much, it actually becomes stressful to watch it with other people. I'll end up wasting 90 minutes shiftily glancing around to confirm that everyone's laughing at the right parts, then making sure I laugh just a little bit harder (and a millisecond earlier) to prove that I'm still the only one who really, really gets it. (I'm not dramatic, but I will run my yapper during my favorite movies to make sure others understand why that part was SO important!)

- How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet? (Very carefully)

- I would rather try to carry 10 plastic grocery bags in each hand than take 2 trips to bring my groceries in. (I do this every day of my life. With 2 kids, I have to do this. And I am so stubborn that I will make a point to see how few trips I can get the stuff in and then look at all my treasures I piled high to obtain that goal!)

- I think part of a best friend's job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die. (I think we can all agree with this. Or burn that box of stuff that no one should be allowed to find!)

- LOL has gone from meaning, "laugh out loud" to "I have nothing else to say". (I have encountered this a time or two with men who lack in conversation.)

- I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger. (That is why I have a snack drawer at work and take an M & M break every afternoon!)

- Whenever someone says "I'm not book smart, but I'm street smart", all I hear is "I'm not real smart, but I'm imaginary smart". (Uh, explain this one to the blonde one. Just kidding! My theory is people are either common sense smart or book smart. I used to be more book smart, but over time I have become more common sense smart which is the better smart to be, I think. LOL)

- How many times is it appropriate to say "What?" before you just nod and smile because you still didn't hear what they said? (I did this just the other day at Subway when I could not understand the foreign guy. I just looked at my bf and shook my head and rolled my eyes).

- I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars teams up to prevent a dick from cutting in at the front. Stay strong, brothers! (That line of cars on the highway that gang up on the jerk. Yep, I want to be right in the middle of that and not the "jerk" that they are being mean to!)

- Every time I have to spell a word over the phone using 'as in' examples, I will undoubtedly draw a blank and sound like a complete idiot. Today I had to spell my boss's last name to an attorney and said "Yes that's G as in...(10 second lapse)..ummm...Goonies". (D 'as in' dragondaffodilfly, S 'as in' supercalifragilisticexpieledocious. Hee hee!)

- What would happen if I hired two private investigators to follow each other? (If I only had the capital to hire private detectives!)

- While driving yesterday I saw a banana peel in the road and instinctively swerved to avoid it...thanks Mario Kart. (I can say I have never done this one... yet.)

- I find it hard to believe there are actually people who get in the shower first and THEN turn on the water. (I grew up in an old farmhouse where I had to do this. And I was lucky if I got a shower everyday because of the stupid water. Thank God I don't have that problem today or I would cry. Literally. Cry.)

- Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Trousers? Trousers never get dirty; you can wear them forever. (I don't have to wash any trousers as of right now but I will remember this one in case I ever need it. LOL)

- I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind of tired. (So true when you're a hardworking mom with kids to take care of. If I get home before 6:00 p.m. anymore I am shocked!)

- Bad decisions make good stories. (Oh yes!)

- Whenever I'm Facebook stalking someone and I find out that their profile is public, I feel like a kid on Christmas morning that just got the Red Ryder BB gun that I always wanted. 546 pictures? Don't mind if I do! (Never done this one, nope, never!)

- Why is it that during an ice-breaker, when the whole room has to go around and say their name and where they are from, I get so incredibly nervous? Like I know my name, I know where I'm from, this shouldn't be a problem... (I always worry I'm gonna forget what I'm supposed to say. Like they give you a list of 3 things to say and sometimes people have to be reminded of what the third thing was. How embarrassing!)

- You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you've made up your mind that you just aren't doing anything productive for the rest of the day. (That's a given. Some days are bust butt get 20 hours worth of work done in 10, and others are get 1 hour's worth done in 9. Those days are great.)

- Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after DVDs? I don't want to have to restart my collection. (I can never keep up with the current "in" right now so update me that happens, k?)

- There's no worse feeling than that millisecond you're sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far. (HAHAHA! Oh wait, I'm not laughing. HAHAHA! Karma will get me for laughing at this one.)

- I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten page research paper that I swear I did not make any changes to. (Yeah, hate it when that happens)

- "Do not machine wash or tumble dry" means I will never wash this ever. (I will add do not dry flannel shirts. I learned this when I was 15. OOPS.)

- I hate being the one with the remote in a room full of people watching TV. There's so much pressure. 'I love this show, but will they judge me if I keep it on? I bet everyone is wishing we weren't watching this. It's only a matter of time before they all get up and leave the room. Will we still be friends after this?' (This is true because you want to please everyone but as always, you cannot please everyone all the time. The children rule the TV in our house most of the time anyway so I usually just settle for cartoons. Because sometimes Dora is my saving grace and allows me to get some housework done!)

- I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello? Darn!), but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voicemail. What'd you do after I didn't answer? Drop the phone and run away? (When this happens, it plain irritates me. Or what about this one - you have a missed call from a number you don't know? Do you call it back? Do you just let it go? The suspense drives me crazy and I usually call the number back. I just can't stand knowing someone called me and not knowing who the mystery caller was!)

- I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste. (Amen. Or the opposite happens ~ you decide to make it a lazy day and all these visitors show up on your doorstep unannounced. Or an ex husband stops by at 5:00 in the afternoon and you and the kids are still in jammies. Not that that's ever happened or anything! I rarely get these lazy days but they are nice every once in a great while.)

- When I meet a new girl, I'm terrified of mentioning something she hasn't already told me but that I have learned from some light internet stalking. (Have you ever been guilty of internet stalking? Never, right? Why don't I buy that for one minute?? Google has many uses these days!!)

- I like all of the music in my iTunes, except when it's on shuffle, then I like about one in every fifteen songs in my iTunes. (Considering I don't have an ipod and can barely work my daughter's, I can't say this fits me to the T. However, I have made CDs ~ you know those circle shiny disks that play music ~ CDs. I have made some with my fav songs on them and now those songs get on my nerves. I can listen to a CD of 20 songs in like 5 minutes!)

- Why is a school zone 5 mph? That seems like the optimal cruising speed for paedophiles... (Yup. Not to mention how hard is it to drive 5 mph. Not that I'm a speed demon or anything...)

- Sometimes I'll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is. (Can't say I do this one. But I will look at my watch 3 times in 2 minutes!)

- I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call. (Enough said!)

- Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket, hitting the G-spot, and Pinning the Tail on the Donkey, but I'd bet money everyone can find and push the Snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time every time... (This is me every morning when Taylor Swift starts singing to me! What can I say? It's a song loud enough guaranteed to wake me up every time. That is the only time I will cuss my beloved little cell buddy.)

-My 4-year old son asked me in the car the other day "Dad what would happen if you ran over a ninja?" How the hell do I respond to that? (My 4 yo daughter asks me the most random things, often times in the car. The other day we were in the drive through of a restaurant behind several cars and she yelled "Oh come on lady. You can't take so long lady." I busted a gut while trying to order!)

- I wonder if cops ever get pissed off at the fact that everyone they drive behind obeys the speed limit. (I am sure they do. Even if it looks like a police car behind me, I slow down and obey the speed limit. Maybe that is why they drive with their sirens on sometimes, so they can speed too, and it would be legal. Just a thought.)

- I think the freezer deserves a light as well. (Yeah, what's up with that anyway?)

- The other night I ordered take away and when I looked in the bag, saw they had included four sets of plastic cutlery. In other words, someone at the restaurant packed my order, took a second to think about it, and then estimated that there must be at least four people eating to require such a large amount of food. Too bad I was eating by myself. There's nothing like being made to feel like a fat butt before dinner. (Maybe they were trying to be nice and supply your home with extra silverware??)