Thursday, February 26, 2009

We Must Be Responsible Now

When we are born into this world, we are all tiny little helpless babies who rely on our parents or caretakers to give us what we need. And as we grow, we still rely on adults to supply our needs and give us the care we require while sprouting up into adulthood. And then as time passes by, which happens all too fast, we eventually grow up to be 18, get out of school, and get out into the real world. Then reality really sets in when we are all grown and responsible for ourselves in life. When we are young and small, we can't wait to grow up and be adults so we can do what we want when we want. But then it's ironic how often times once we grow up, we wish to be young again and not have the full responsibility load that comes with being an adult.

I have to admit I have always been responsible, even when I was young and didn't know then what I know now. I have always had a good head on my shoulders and knew right from wrong. And I am proud to say I have walked the straight and narrow most of my life. I have been told by others that they are proud of the kind of person I am and the way I choose to live. I have been called an inspiration by some which is completely flattering to me because in my eyes, I am just me. Just a good simple country girl who lives life to the fullest each day. I will say I find the best in every situation, no matter what the circumstances are. Each and every person can learn something from every scenario in life if they would just open their eyes and learn to listen. But with every thing I have been through in life, good or bad, it had made me into the responsible person that I am today.

Choosing to be responsible does not come easily to some. There are those in this world who seem to never grow up, no matter how old they are. They live on the edge, don't take responsibility for things that they should, and are often referred to as self centered individuals. It is sad, but that's the way some people choose to live life. They go through life as though time will pass at a slow pace, and do not realize what they are missing out on as time is currently passing. I personally feel pity for those who choose to be irresponsible and the only thing I can do is pray for those who fall into this category. Because I truly believe one day, irresponsible people will look back and wonder where the time went. Life is short and time is too precious to live as if tomorrow will be here forever.

I have learned that being a parent makes someone responsible whether they want to be or not. It's a completely different world when you become a parent and another person relies completely on you for care and nourishment. Not only does another person rely on you, but that little person will come to depend on you as they grow and mature. Being a mom is by far the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life. And since I grew up being responsible, it was easy to follow that trait and take care of my babies to the best of my ability. My girls are my world and I would not be the person who I am today without them. They keep me going each and everyday and are always there for me no matter what. So that in essence is why I am a responsible person, or should I say the two reasons I make responsibility a priority.

I do think most of today's people in the world are responsible. Or at least they would like to think they are. Being responsible is in the choice of the beholder. They can choose to be a good upstanding citizen and take responsibility for their actions or creations, or they can take the wrong path and ignore their responsibilities and later live to regret it at some point in time. Really, there is only two directions to go on the matter - responsible or irresponsible. There is no middle ground on the subject of responsibility. Either people can rely on you or they figure out they must rely on themselves to accomplish tasks.

Have you pondered the subject of responsibility lately? Do you consider yourself to be a responsible individual? If you answered yes to the last question, wonderful! Keep on being dependable and taking care of your responsibilities. If you had to stop and think about it for a minute, maybe that should tell you something. If you could not confirm with a clear "yes" in a quick second, then maybe you need to make some changes in your life. Maybe you need to become more responsible for something you are slacking on. If each person took responsibility for their actions or was a responsible person in general, this world would be a much better place. I know I cannot change the world, but I can make a difference by being a good person and responsible adult. I can be an influence to others by taking care of my responsibilities and setting a good example. And maybe just maybe, my actions will inspire others to be more responsible in this world. So if you need to take responsibility for something in your life, start today! The change should come sooner than later, so why not begin right now and try to make a difference? You never know... maybe your actions will make someone else be more responsible in this world.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Honesty is the Best Policy

As the title reads, honesty is truly the best policy. A big pet peeve of mine is people who are conniving, dishonest, hide the truth or just plain lie! The majority of today's society gets caught up in this peeve of mine. If everyone in the world would just be honest and truthful, the world would not be in the state of turmoil it is today. The economy would not be as weak, people would not hate each other as they do in today's world, we would not have the crime rate we do today, and so on and so forth if people would just be HONEST and truthful 24/7. So maybe that last statement describes wishful thinking, and yes it would be a dream if the whole world was honest, but unfortunately that is not the case.

I have learned to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help me God. I also treat others the way I would want to be treated because that's just the golden rule. I am always honest up front with my friends, family, and people that cross my path in this life. Sometimes the truth is not always what we want to hear, or presents a situation we would care not to face. But the truth also sets us free both when we are honest with others and when we receive honesty from others.

As much as we don't want to admit it, we have all told a lie at one point in time or another. Sometimes it's a little white lie, and other times it's a lie of such great magnitude that could do great damage to others. Sometimes when we lie about something small, we don't think that it's a big deal. Or we may think we are doing someone else a favor by not telling them the entire truth. I strongly disagree that people should tell any lie, even a small teensy weensy little tiny one. Because eventually the lie will catch up to us, maybe not right away, but down the road it will come back to bite us in the butt in some way. So next time the thought of being dishonest crosses your mind, think about this...

How did you feel when someone lied to you in the past? It was probably a terrible feeling. Maybe you have been lied to about something that wasn't of great importance, but you still felt betrayed. Or maybe you have been lied to about something that completely changed your life or your world. Any lie is a lie, regardless of the size of the dishonest words. And the longer that a person lies, the bigger the lie becomes which only creates more hurt or damage when the truth is finally revealed. It absolutely amazes me how many people are dishonest in today's society. They cross our path everyday and sometimes we don't even realize it. But I believe that all lies eventually come to a halt and at some point, the truth will come out. Sometimes we find out the truth from the person who deceived us, other times we find out the truth from a friend who knew the truth all along.

So here is my challenge to you if you are reading this post and have been guilty of being dishonest in the past. First and foremost, be honest with yourself. Until you are honest with yourself about whatever situation you are dealing with, you cannot be honest with others. YOU must face reality first and realize what the truth is before involving anyone else. Then once you are honest with yourself, you are then ready to be honest with the rest of the world. At that point, do what the last phrase says and be honest with others. It is completely unfair to both parties when the truth is hidden. I believe when you are honest with others, you will earn more respect from people than if you lie or hide the truth.

I have been in situations where I was lied to and it burned some bridges with people. I have also had people be honest and up front with me and you know what? I actually respect them more for their honest words and not lying about the situation. Therefore I will allow that person to remain in my life and tend to admire that person for being truthful with me. I always treat others how I would want to be treated because I also believe what goes around comes around. And if you are lying to someone about something, it will come back full circle one of these days and then you will be on the receiving end. And then you will be the one who gets betrayed for the lies you told to others.

Ok, now for a bit of humor for the male readers out there...
You know when your wife or girlfriend asks you a question and you don't exactly know what to say? NEVER lie to your significant other; just agree with her. Even if you don't completely agree with what she says, do it anyway. That way you are not technically lying, just agreeing. So for example if she asks if you like her hair and you really don't, DO NOT tell her that. That is just the start of a place you don't even want to go. So heed my advice, just agree with her because women are usually right you know!

So I will leave you with this thought... Remember honesty is the best route to take, even when the truth isn't what someone else wants to hear. Honesty will set you and others free and spare hard feelings in the end. Always be honest with yourself, and be honest with others. You will have a more clear conscience when you are truthful about situations in life. You will have no reason to feel guilty if you are honest because there will be no lies that come back to haunt you down the road. Treat others how you would want to be treated because that is what life is all about. Be good, be true, and be honest and you will be happiest in life!

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Too Good to Be True?!?!

Have you ever heard the phrase "if something sounds too good to be true, then it probably is?" More than likely you have heard that phrase and chances are you have probably dealt with a situation in life where that statement was true. This can apply to many different scenarios in life. There are situations that something seems like the greatest thing in the world and then it turns out not to be as good as you originally thought. There are people in this world who we put on a pedestal and or we idolize and then that person lets us down in the long run or turns out to be someone totally different than we originally thought. I think each person in this world has been guilty of falling in the "too good to be true" trap a time or two.

It goes along the line with the saying of "the grass is always greener on the other side." I have seen the follow-up statement to that as "until you get there." So yes the grass does always seem greener on the other side... until we take the plunge and get to the other side... then we realize it wasn't as green as we saw in the beginning. Often times we portray an image in our mind of what something would be like. Today's society seems to always want what they can't have. Or often times people in this world are not satisfied with what they currently have and always want more. We often think if things were different than the current scenario, then our lives would be better and more fulfilled.

As hard as it is, we as a society need to be content with what we are blessed with in this world. We need to stop thinking about what we don't have, and reaching for the "this" or "that" we believe would make our life better. This does not mean we can't have dreams and goals in life. We do need to reach for the stars at times if the goal is realistic and obtainable.

We all have dreams we want to come true. And we must take action to make our dreams come true. I strongly believe we can achieve our goals and dreams in life, but we must be honest to ourselves in the process. If we truly believe a goal can be achieved, then we should do no matter what it takes in order for us to get there and accomplish that goal or dream. But always remember, do not lose sight of who you are as a person in the process. Do not compromise or forget your morals and beliefs. Do not make sacrifices you don't believe you can live with in the long run. Because once you reach the goal or dream you achieved so hard to reach, you need to be able to look back and smile on the journey and not regret the decisions made along the way.

At times the other side of the fence is better for us in the long run. This does not mean we will be granted an easy ride; there are obstacles to overcome in order to get to where we need to be in life. But the one guaranteed promise in this world is that if something is meant to happen, it will happen when the time is right.

There are also people we meet along the road of life who turn out to be someone totally different than we thought they were in the beginning. People change. In fact, we ALL change over time. But often times a person will put on a bright front in the beginning, and then over time the REAL person comes out. I have learned to be myself completely all the time, no exceptions. If a person does not like me for who I truly am, then that person does not need to be in my life. I am not one of those people who could be labeled "too good to be true." I am who I am. Some may interpret that as a bit conceited and if that's the case, then so be it. I have strong beliefs about certain things in life and I won't compromise my morals about some things. But with that stated, it is also important to remember life is about change and therefore we must be willing to bend. Bending does not mean making a total flip-flop in life, but be willing to make changes and compromise that will benefit your future and your life.

In conclusion, yes there are some things that are too good to be true. There are people who inspire us that turn out to let us down. There will be situations in life where we want something we cannot have. There will always be something that seems better than what we currently have. But we must remember to keep our guard up just a bit, keep our eyes and ears open, and not fall into the trap. We must not be led by false shows people put on in the beginning or an image envisioned in our head of the way life could be. We must be smart in making decisions and not get lost so much in a situation or someone that we forget who we are. I believe the more independent of a person you are, the better you are able to read into situations or figure out a person in the beginning. We will all fall into the trap at some point in time and it's ok. Just remember if you were misled about something in life and you later realize it, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go on. LEARN FROM IT, apply it to your life and do not forget the lessons learned in the incident. If something is too good to be true, it probably is. But remember our weaknesses only make us stronger in life!

My Mini Comedian

Do you have kids that like to be funny or do things that you can't help but laugh about? Well I must say there is never a dull moment around our house. My little one has become the entertainment on several occasions. You just really never know quite what she will do or say next. So a few nights ago she informed me that her toothpaste was "taking a bath." I thought what in the world is she talking about?!?!

So then my brain had a flashback to this time last year. She accidentally dropped the cap of her toothpaste down into the sink and it fit just perfectly into the drain to where I could not get it out. The cap was such a perfect fit that no matter what I used to try and pry it out or what I did, the cap became wedged down farther into the drain the more I tried to retrieve it! So finally after multiple tries and using different objects to try and fish out the cap, I gave up and decided to call for back-up assistance. So I dialed up my mom's husband, otherwise known as my Mr. Fix-it who came up with the remedy to solve the problem. He jabbed a sharp knife way down into the plastic and carefully wiggled the stuck cap back up to the surface! So we had a tube of toothpaste that had this lovely knife hole in the cap until it was all used up.

So the other night when my little one informed me that her "toothpaste was taking a bath." I said NOOOOO and knew exactly what that meant! So I ran into the bathroom and sure enough ~ an exact repeat a year later! She once again had the toothpaste cap wedged down into the drain and the sink was half full of water. Only this time her toothpaste was floating in the water "taking a bath." So I dialed up Mr. Fix It and he came over to fix the problem once again. I had a talk with my little one about how the toothpaste doesn't need to take a bath, just people. So a few days later she came up to me again and told me her toothpaste was taking another bath... (But luckily Mr. Fix It was at my house this time so no need to make another phone call LOL)

Then a couple days later I said the words "diaper bag" in conversation with my little comedian. She then informed me that it was an "underwear bag." Well I was puzzled for a few seconds until I realized oh yes, she has been potty trained for awhile. So she corrected me that her "diaper bag" must now be called an "underwear bag" for future reference! So I'm trying to remember to use the correct term but I have been corrected a few times since. I will give her credit and say she does have a very valid point!

No matter what, all kids say the darndest things at some point in time. Sometimes they are embarrassing, sometimes their words can be cute, but what is most important is that we take the time to laugh about their funny sayings. Kids are only little once and might be funny or embarrass us a few times in our lives, but those memories will stick with us a lifetime and become some of the best moments to reflect back upon as they grow older. As I always say, life is short so laugh, love and live happy!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Sad News about Wagonteamster

As I sit here typing this post, I am on the verge of tears as I share this awful news. I just received a phone call from my mother informing me that Bob Skelding from was involved in a horrific accident yesterday afternoon in Macon, Mississippi. I do not know many details at this point, just heard about the accident and that Bob was in surgery and had been seriously injured. Here is a link to a news article that briefly talks about the accident and shows a picture of the destroyed wagon:

Even sadder news ~ two of his horses, Dolly and Deedee were killed in the accident. Now anyone who has owned a pet can understand the sadness and loss felt after an animal has died. I have lost cats, dogs, and even horses during my life. When an animal passes on, often times it feels as though we have lost a best friend. Doc and Dolly will live on to become a legend in this world. They will live on in the hearts of thousands of people whose lives were touched by this story.

Even though I never met Bob, I was so drawn to the story when I first heard about it. For a refresher click HERE. I must admit I became hooked on this story and would check the "Where's Bob" link every morning to see where his travels took him the previous day. I even loaded the page on my favorites so I had quick access to my daily link.

My heart is absolutely breaking over this tragic accident. I feel as though I grew to know Bob and his team of horses just from reading the daily blog and stories he wrote on his website. In fact, just this morning when I logged on to his site and didn't see an update from the previous day, I had a funny feeling come over me. Then I received the phone call a few minutes later. The phone call that made my heart sink to the floor and the urge to break down bawling my eyes out at that very moment. A moment of panic swept through my heart and I think the first words out of my mouth were "NO that can't be." But then reality set in and I had to check out the news story for myself. I had to click on the picture of the wagon that was demolished into thousands of pieces. The very wagon that rolled across 1700+ miles of ground. The wagon that no longer had the horses hitched to it cruising down the highway. The wagon that will no longer exists because of the tanker semi that crashed into the wagonteamster ride. And then reality sets in even more when I see the picture of the demolished wagon with no horses hitched to it. Half of the team from wagonteamster is no longer here and the other half has been injured tremendously. Not to mention that wagonteamster's driver is laying in a hospital somewhere.

I have a quote on my e-mail signature that reads "everything happens for a reason." I happened to look at this quote shortly after receiving this tragic news. It made me ask the question "why did this happen?" Obviously no one knows the answer to that exact question. That is one of those phrases that we ask ourselves every time something bad happens or something goes wrong. I have no idea why this happened; nor can I begin to fathom why it did happen. But there has to be some type of reason that Bob lost half of his team and nearly his life.

Bob is such an inspiration to me and all others who have followed his story. He has touched my heart and my life in so many ways. I regret that I never had the opportunity to meet Bob or see the team on the road. However, I have learned so much from following Bob's journey these past few months. He is truly a hero for taking the leap of faith and venturing on the journey that tragically ended on February 10, 2009.

Please keep Bob and his horses in your prayers. Hopefully he will recover fully and his horses Joyce and Doc will be ok. I do not know the extent of their injuries, but the outlook cannot be good from looking at the picture of destruction. Please please pray for the remaining members of wagonteamster. I hope and pray something good will come to light in the midst of this awful tragedy. I do know Bob was writing a book about his life experiences. I pray that someday that his book will hit the shelves of bookstores and be a powerful tool to help others in their life's journey.

Please not only pray for Bob, but remember that life is short and you NEVER know what will happen from day to day. As I always say, live life to the fullest each day and never take one moment for granted. Each day given to us is a blessing from God. Live, laugh and love and be happy for every moment in your life. Things can change in the blink of an eye. Bob & the wagonteamster are living proof of that...