Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Honesty is the Best Policy

As the title reads, honesty is truly the best policy. A big pet peeve of mine is people who are conniving, dishonest, hide the truth or just plain lie! The majority of today's society gets caught up in this peeve of mine. If everyone in the world would just be honest and truthful, the world would not be in the state of turmoil it is today. The economy would not be as weak, people would not hate each other as they do in today's world, we would not have the crime rate we do today, and so on and so forth if people would just be HONEST and truthful 24/7. So maybe that last statement describes wishful thinking, and yes it would be a dream if the whole world was honest, but unfortunately that is not the case.

I have learned to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, so help me God. I also treat others the way I would want to be treated because that's just the golden rule. I am always honest up front with my friends, family, and people that cross my path in this life. Sometimes the truth is not always what we want to hear, or presents a situation we would care not to face. But the truth also sets us free both when we are honest with others and when we receive honesty from others.

As much as we don't want to admit it, we have all told a lie at one point in time or another. Sometimes it's a little white lie, and other times it's a lie of such great magnitude that could do great damage to others. Sometimes when we lie about something small, we don't think that it's a big deal. Or we may think we are doing someone else a favor by not telling them the entire truth. I strongly disagree that people should tell any lie, even a small teensy weensy little tiny one. Because eventually the lie will catch up to us, maybe not right away, but down the road it will come back to bite us in the butt in some way. So next time the thought of being dishonest crosses your mind, think about this...

How did you feel when someone lied to you in the past? It was probably a terrible feeling. Maybe you have been lied to about something that wasn't of great importance, but you still felt betrayed. Or maybe you have been lied to about something that completely changed your life or your world. Any lie is a lie, regardless of the size of the dishonest words. And the longer that a person lies, the bigger the lie becomes which only creates more hurt or damage when the truth is finally revealed. It absolutely amazes me how many people are dishonest in today's society. They cross our path everyday and sometimes we don't even realize it. But I believe that all lies eventually come to a halt and at some point, the truth will come out. Sometimes we find out the truth from the person who deceived us, other times we find out the truth from a friend who knew the truth all along.

So here is my challenge to you if you are reading this post and have been guilty of being dishonest in the past. First and foremost, be honest with yourself. Until you are honest with yourself about whatever situation you are dealing with, you cannot be honest with others. YOU must face reality first and realize what the truth is before involving anyone else. Then once you are honest with yourself, you are then ready to be honest with the rest of the world. At that point, do what the last phrase says and be honest with others. It is completely unfair to both parties when the truth is hidden. I believe when you are honest with others, you will earn more respect from people than if you lie or hide the truth.

I have been in situations where I was lied to and it burned some bridges with people. I have also had people be honest and up front with me and you know what? I actually respect them more for their honest words and not lying about the situation. Therefore I will allow that person to remain in my life and tend to admire that person for being truthful with me. I always treat others how I would want to be treated because I also believe what goes around comes around. And if you are lying to someone about something, it will come back full circle one of these days and then you will be on the receiving end. And then you will be the one who gets betrayed for the lies you told to others.

Ok, now for a bit of humor for the male readers out there...
You know when your wife or girlfriend asks you a question and you don't exactly know what to say? NEVER lie to your significant other; just agree with her. Even if you don't completely agree with what she says, do it anyway. That way you are not technically lying, just agreeing. So for example if she asks if you like her hair and you really don't, DO NOT tell her that. That is just the start of a place you don't even want to go. So heed my advice, just agree with her because women are usually right you know!

So I will leave you with this thought... Remember honesty is the best route to take, even when the truth isn't what someone else wants to hear. Honesty will set you and others free and spare hard feelings in the end. Always be honest with yourself, and be honest with others. You will have a more clear conscience when you are truthful about situations in life. You will have no reason to feel guilty if you are honest because there will be no lies that come back to haunt you down the road. Treat others how you would want to be treated because that is what life is all about. Be good, be true, and be honest and you will be happiest in life!

1 comment:

Brandy said...

Amen sister! I learned that the hard way. I agree.. Never again