Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Too Good to Be True?!?!

Have you ever heard the phrase "if something sounds too good to be true, then it probably is?" More than likely you have heard that phrase and chances are you have probably dealt with a situation in life where that statement was true. This can apply to many different scenarios in life. There are situations that something seems like the greatest thing in the world and then it turns out not to be as good as you originally thought. There are people in this world who we put on a pedestal and or we idolize and then that person lets us down in the long run or turns out to be someone totally different than we originally thought. I think each person in this world has been guilty of falling in the "too good to be true" trap a time or two.

It goes along the line with the saying of "the grass is always greener on the other side." I have seen the follow-up statement to that as "until you get there." So yes the grass does always seem greener on the other side... until we take the plunge and get to the other side... then we realize it wasn't as green as we saw in the beginning. Often times we portray an image in our mind of what something would be like. Today's society seems to always want what they can't have. Or often times people in this world are not satisfied with what they currently have and always want more. We often think if things were different than the current scenario, then our lives would be better and more fulfilled.

As hard as it is, we as a society need to be content with what we are blessed with in this world. We need to stop thinking about what we don't have, and reaching for the "this" or "that" we believe would make our life better. This does not mean we can't have dreams and goals in life. We do need to reach for the stars at times if the goal is realistic and obtainable.

We all have dreams we want to come true. And we must take action to make our dreams come true. I strongly believe we can achieve our goals and dreams in life, but we must be honest to ourselves in the process. If we truly believe a goal can be achieved, then we should do no matter what it takes in order for us to get there and accomplish that goal or dream. But always remember, do not lose sight of who you are as a person in the process. Do not compromise or forget your morals and beliefs. Do not make sacrifices you don't believe you can live with in the long run. Because once you reach the goal or dream you achieved so hard to reach, you need to be able to look back and smile on the journey and not regret the decisions made along the way.

At times the other side of the fence is better for us in the long run. This does not mean we will be granted an easy ride; there are obstacles to overcome in order to get to where we need to be in life. But the one guaranteed promise in this world is that if something is meant to happen, it will happen when the time is right.

There are also people we meet along the road of life who turn out to be someone totally different than we thought they were in the beginning. People change. In fact, we ALL change over time. But often times a person will put on a bright front in the beginning, and then over time the REAL person comes out. I have learned to be myself completely all the time, no exceptions. If a person does not like me for who I truly am, then that person does not need to be in my life. I am not one of those people who could be labeled "too good to be true." I am who I am. Some may interpret that as a bit conceited and if that's the case, then so be it. I have strong beliefs about certain things in life and I won't compromise my morals about some things. But with that stated, it is also important to remember life is about change and therefore we must be willing to bend. Bending does not mean making a total flip-flop in life, but be willing to make changes and compromise that will benefit your future and your life.

In conclusion, yes there are some things that are too good to be true. There are people who inspire us that turn out to let us down. There will be situations in life where we want something we cannot have. There will always be something that seems better than what we currently have. But we must remember to keep our guard up just a bit, keep our eyes and ears open, and not fall into the trap. We must not be led by false shows people put on in the beginning or an image envisioned in our head of the way life could be. We must be smart in making decisions and not get lost so much in a situation or someone that we forget who we are. I believe the more independent of a person you are, the better you are able to read into situations or figure out a person in the beginning. We will all fall into the trap at some point in time and it's ok. Just remember if you were misled about something in life and you later realize it, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go on. LEARN FROM IT, apply it to your life and do not forget the lessons learned in the incident. If something is too good to be true, it probably is. But remember our weaknesses only make us stronger in life!


Brandy said...

Well said!! :)

Anonymous said...

Janelle, I am SO waiting for you to write a book with this stuff! For real girly, you have a writing talent!

RICHARD said...