Friday, January 9, 2009

Are You a Reason, Season or a Lifetime Friend?

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a Godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.

Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.


Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.


LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life. . . . . . .
Whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.


I am sure you have seen this piece of writing come across your e-mail or posted somewhere. I love the way this is written and agree completely. We have all had friends that have come into our life for a short time and then they're gone. We've all had friends that come into our life to stay forever. I strongly believe that each and every person that enters our life has come into our life for a reason. We may not always know the reason they are there, but there is a reason. I know there have been times someone has come into my life and they were a Godsend at the time. They gave me the strength or wisdom I needed at that moment in time. And often times we learn something from people who have come in to our life for a season and apply the lessons learned to the future to make our life better.

I have been tremendously blessed and have many lifetime friends. They have gotten me through some of the roughest times in my life and have continued to be there for me in the best of times as well. We all need a friend or a group of friends we can lean on. And we also need to be a friend when our friends need us the most. Sometimes just listening to a friend vent about something can be enough. Sometimes our friends need us to be there for them physically, mentally or emotionally.

We all have different types of friends as well. We have friends that are married, single, have kids, younger than us, older than us, family that we consider friends, and the list goes on and on. But each individual person in our life has a special place in our heart that no other can touch. There are those friends you can confide your deepest darkest secrets to and know they won't breath a word to a soul. And there are friends that you tell just enough information to keep them content. There are friends who are a mentor in times when we need them, and there are friends we need to mentor because we have been in there situation and know their scenario is like. Been there, done that ~ we've all used that line at some point in time. And my philosophy is if I can help one person from using the experiences in life I have been through, then it was worth it. It was worth whatever I had to overcome to give advice to another, or to save another from going through trials in life.

There have been a few situations in my life where I have been able to help another person. Whether it be that other person lost a child, went through a divorce, had trouble with friends or family, or just needed advice about a certain situation, I was able to mentor that person and help them in some way. And we all like to be needed and help others along the way. That is something in life that God wants us to realize. He wants us to be able to use the knowledge from our past experiences to help mentor others in the future.

Remember to take a moment to thank God for your loved ones and friends in your life. Ask him to bless them as they carry on in their everyday lives. Take an extra moment in the day and send an e-mail or call or send a text message just to say "hi" and you hope your friends are having a good day. Believe it or not, it can make a difference in someone's world if they are having a bad day. When I get a text that says "have a good day" it brings a smile to my face to know that someone is thinking about me. And if you have had a disagreement with a loved one or friend lately, try to make amends with that person. Family is family forever and good friendships are hard to find so do whatever it takes to save that friendship. Laugh, love and live happy. Forgive and forget. Let go fo the past. Then your future can be filled with family, friends, laughter, love and happiness!

2 comments:

Brandy said...

Sometimes I think you have a "direct line" into my life. Your posts seem to really hit home with me at times. Especially Psalms and this one!! WOW. A dear friend of mine had once sent that email to me... I thought and hoped they were a lifetime friend... It was touching then just as it is now.
You are a remarkable person and for whatever reason our paths crossed I am thankful. You really make me think and not too many people stimulate me to think deeply. :-)

Michael W. Moss said...

Truly an inspirational post by yas Janelle. And it speaks deeply as to the type of person you are. I consider you a lifelong type of friend and definately God brought you into my life girly :)